Contact Me

If you have concerns or questions about any of the disorders I cover in this blog, or a personal problem you don’t feel comfortable sharing in public, you are free to contact me and I’ll try to reply as quickly as I can. If want to share your story in private with me, I’d be more than happy to read your story and try to direct you to the appropriate resources, if necessary.

Due to the amount of email I get, I can’t promise to reply immediately, but I will try my best. I am not a professional therapist but sometimes it takes a fellow sufferer to really know what we are dealing with and be able to offer the best suggestions for how to cope with it.

I’m also always trying to improve this blog, so if you have any suggestions to make it better or any criticisms, I’d like to hear those too.

You may email me at otterlover58@gmail.com — all emails will remain strictly confidential.

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Blessings!
Lauren Bennett

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24 thoughts on “Contact Me

    1. Most therapists no nothing or next to nothing about narc-abuse. They’re always trying to get you to “reconnect” with your family as if you are being uncharitable. Mine, fortunately, doesn’t do that. I don’t know how much he knows about narcissism, but he agrees with me that my family is toxic and I’m best off without them.

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      1. Calling a person toxic is a very dehumanizing term that most therapist would avoid. Dysfunctional is more suitable to describe people’s behavior. However, it may be a toxic environment created by dysfunctional people. Unfortunately most therapist aren’t equipped to deal with covert Narcissistic PD.
        Nor can social services recognize the emotional abuse to their children.
        It seems to be epidemic in the US. We need a more nurturing school environment since most children are not having their social emotional needs met at home or school.

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  1. Hi there,
    I believe my wife is a somatic narcissist and I would like to see if or how I can seek help for her. Also my 9.5 yr old son is at a vulnerable age and needs to be rescued from the abuse. I am currently experiencing the exploitation stage and have left home to obtain a low profile.
    Kind regards Mick

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    1. Hi Michael,
      I admire you for wanting to help your wife with her NPD (if that’s what she has) but I wouldn’t hold out too much hope for her healing–NPD is very difficult to cure, especally if she’s high spectrum. Most narcissists aren’t self aware and even if they are, most don’t think they are the ones with the problem, so therapy usually won’t be helpful. However, I do think in certain cases, with low level narcissists (usually the covert type), who are unhappy due to their disorder and aware of how empty they feel inside (sometimes this happens after they have lost supply) they may at that point submit to therapy. Does your wife have an NPD diagnosis, and is she admitting she has a problem? If not, I’d only suggest finding a way to get you and your son away from her, preferably No Contact, if it’s possible (or at least very low contact).
      If she is willing to work on getting better and is unhappy with her disorder, then she should find a good therapist who specializes in treating people with NPD/BPD (they are often comorbid with each other and have similarities) or at the very least, a good trauma therapist (because these disorders have their roots in trauma). For something more short term, she could see a therapist who uses CBT (cognitive behavioral training) which won’t cure her disorder, but will teach her to act in more prosocial, less abusive and manipulative ways. Sometimes that’s the best option, because getting to the root of the problem can take years, and sometimes isn’t successful. But even CBT won’t work if she isn’t willing work on changing.
      For the short term, is it possible for you and your son to live separateky from her? Staying with a narcissist is going to hurt your son, so the sooner you can resolve that matter, the better.
      I know that isn’t much, but I hope it helps.

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  2. I started my own blog, mainly for myself but I also want to help others who have been through what I have been through or something/anything similar. Do you have any suggestion on how to put myself out there without putting too much of myself out there (don’t really want to attach it to my fb, twitter, google pages). Any advice would be appreciated. Your blog has essentially helped rescue me and lead me to other amazing blogs…I just want to do the same for others if I can.

    Thanks!!

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    1. I took a look at your blog and I’m following you now. I really liked the poem “Too Much.” I think if you write honestly and from your heart (which you seem to be doing), you will help yourself and others too. Don’t worry about putting yourself out there too much, I know it’s scary at first. It gets easier over time. You do not have to share stuff on social media. I avoid sharing my stuff on Facebook in particular like the plague.

      I’m glad my blog helped you! šŸ™‚ But this one (Down the Rabbit Hole) is essentially about healing from my on mental illness and my therapy. I also have another blog that has more posts about narcissistic abuse than this one. Please take a look at that one too, though a lot of people like this one better because it veers less into off-topic things and has a more personal and intimate feel (or so I’ve been told). Here’s the link to that blog
      https://luckyottershaven.com/

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  3. Diagnosis are rarely correct. From my experience growing up in a family with predisposition to autism and spectrum behaviors, it is most likely that NPD does not exist alone, but is usually comorbid with B Complex Personality Disorders (Narcissistic, Borderline, AntiSocial, Histrionic.

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  4. I found you yesterday and feel like This is my personal Answer!!! I have been seeking answers from googling daily-sometimes into oblivion; and have a therapy appt. later this morning. I just wanted to say Thank you So much for having this blog. I’m compelled to read it all from the beginning in order (good ‘ol OCD!) and plan to. I’m not religious per se, but bless you!

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    1. Hi Sue! Welcome to my blog. I post less these days about narcissistic abuse than I used to, but there is plenty here for people like you who are seeking answers. There are many other good blogs also, but I’m glad you’ve landed here. I hope you find my posts helpful and enligtening! Good luck on your healing journey. (BTW — I’m not all that religious and am very tolerant of people of other faiths — or none at all!)

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  5. Disagree wholeheartedly. Read further, study more…we the innocent can be perceived as adopting the traits of narcissism but are not narcissists. And I am not ‘covert’ in anything.

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  6. Hello

    I am very much with you on your approach and views in respect of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I entered a devastatingly abusive relationship with someone and, like you, I have wanted to look at all sides. Have needed to look at Masterson, Kernberg, Kohut et al and this has been helpful. However, your blogs and those from Narc-ish have been very helpful because of the honesty and insight. I work as a mental health advocate and I spend a good deal of my time working with people who have a personality disorder. Mental health services are woefully unknowing in the UK about the latter and developmental attachment trauma. I am hoping to establish an advocacy service that more appropriately supports this client base in the near future. Thanks for your approach
    Geoff

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  7. I also think that we are on the cusp of significant changes in how mental health and emotional well being is currently treated and blogs such as this one are a part of the process.

    Whether I work with someone with a diagnosis of Schizophrenia, Bi-Polar or a Personality/Mood Disorder, the back drop to my clients’ histories are unequivocal: they have lived through trauma and continue to cope with its impact.

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