I’m probably overthinking this, but I was wondering if my therapist’s giving me a C-PTSD diagnosis and not a BPD one could have to do with his having positive feelings about me. He admitted he likes me personally, not in a sexual way (I don’t think, anyway–and if so, I would not want to know) but he has said things like “I look forward to our sessions” and “You make my job easy” and well, I can just tell he is fond of me. As hypervigilant and over-attuned to other people’s reactions to me as I am (a very narcissistic trait, I think), I’d definitely be able to feel any negative vibes if they existed.
Would a therapist who sees the same traits in a person they like diagnose them with something non-stigmatizing or more open-ended (like PTSD or C-PTSD) and one they dislike with a highly stigmatizing label like BPD? Since diagnostic labeling is really such a subjective, unscientific thing anyway, I would guess personal feelings do play into this a lot, which is another reason why labels can be so dangerous. You could be stigmatized with a “personality disorder” even if you don’t have one if just one professional didn’t personally like you. Sometimes I think diagnostic labels aren’t even valid unless the client could be tested or evaluated by a team of different professionals who then decide together on a diagnosis. In a one-on-one client/therapist relationship where no tests are given, any diagnostic label given should probably be regarded as a matter of personal opinion. This is probably one of the reasons my therapist was so reluctant to give me a label in the first place and only gave me one because I insisted on having one.
In any case, it makes no difference whether I’m PTSD, C-PTSD, BPD, NPD, ABC or XYZ. I’m getting good trauma therapy and that’s all that matters.