Would a narcissist who lost their memory “forget” how to be a narc?

Originally posted on Lucky Otter’s Haven on May 28, 2015


I saw this posted on Psychforums in the NPD forum:

I’ve long thought what might happen if an N suffered complete lose of memory. Would he remember he was narcissistic? There is a novel in which this happened. Ursula Brangwen in D H Lawrence’s “The Rainbow” falls gravely ill and recovers as a near as damn it normal person.

I know it’s a weird question but it’s interesting. I’ve read that sometimes people who suffer head trauma (without severe brain damage or damage to only a small part of the brain) that produces complete amnesia occasionally display dramatic personality changes when they awaken–even to the point of seeming to have a completely different type of personality than they did originally. It’s as if they are forced to use a different part of the brain and form a new personality — and new brain connections — from scratch.

In most cases, language and other basic life skills are left intact, but I have read of rare cases where even though the brain is left largely undamaged, the person must literally “grow up” and relearn basic skills. This learning usually happens at a much faster rate than it would for an actual child growing up, because the individual already has the brain of an adult.

Think of the System Restore function on your computer. Your computer gets a virus or has some other serious issue. You set the computer back to an earlier date before the problem started. Yes, you lose important files and other saved information (which can be replaced later) but the problem is gone. It’s the same concept — a traumatic brain injury that results in amnesia could work like “system restore” for a narcissistic brain. You could also erase the hard drive and re-install it. (That would be analogous to a more severe injury where the narcissist would have to start out again as a virtual infant–and receive the sort of nurturing they never got when they were a real infant.)

In either case, is it possible that a narc who suffered complete amnesia and could remember nothing of their past, might “wake up” with the capacity to learn empathy and become a non-narcissist?

If so, it gives new meaning to the idea that the best cure for a narcissist is a kick in the head. 😉


3 thoughts on “Would a narcissist who lost their memory “forget” how to be a narc?

  1. Think of Pip’s horrid sister after she is abused by that criminal. She goes from horrid to nice. I think she was a narcissist with histrionic features. I used Lockhard as an example on Facebook. Actually, he was still narcissistic.

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    1. You have to wonder. If they lose long term memory I think they will forget abuse…but they might forget were they live too…or where they grew up. Losing long term memory can be dangerous and they might need to be watched.


  2. LOL, I liked her last statement, or question, about the possible “cure” being something about “a kick in the head”… (Just the way she presented it 🙂 ). Anyway, this question on Naricissism and Amnesia is a darn good question, and one that I had never even thought of before! Wow!


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