I have seen most Ns can laugh and aren’t always serious, but it’s really hard on us when the joke is at our expense. As a covert I try to hide my anger/hurt and joke back, but it never goes over very well and people can usually tell I’m offended/hurt anyway, and it makes me feel too exposed and vulnerable. That’s why I stay away from people.
I also don’t care for those old fashioned jokes you have to “get.” It’s not that I can’t understand the joke, but that I always feel pressure to “get it” and spend the whole time they’re telling me the joke worrying that I might not get it and they’ll think I’m stupid. 😳 😕
It’s a self fulfilling prophecy too, because I spend so much time stressing over maybe not getting the joke that I wind up *not* getting it! And then feeling stupid when I have to fake-laugh.
Most people always want to tell you those kind of jokes and I stress too much about it.
I much prefer random, goofy, wtf humor you don’t have to “get.” Like Roz Chast cartoons. 8)