This is a wonderful article about healing narcissism I found on another blog about another covert narc’s healing journey (From Narcissism to Nirvana). He/she is much farther along their journey than I am, but has also been blogging a lot longer.
This article has a message for us that is both profound and so simple.
This is how you do it.
Have you ever tried to untie a knot when you were angry?
Let’s try it. Humor me please.
Find yourself a piece of thick string, a shoelace, a length of rope, anything that you can tie several good knots into. Come back when you have it.
Now tie several simple knots in the center of your string. Just use simple overhand knots. This is the simplest type of knot there is. Tie at least 5 or 6 good knots in it – more if you want to. Make sure you pull them tight – not too tight, but tightly enough so that they are very snug and will not come undone on their own. Then pull them just a little bit tighter.
Look at what you are holding in your hand. Look at those knots. Now picture some part of yourself, or some part of someone else that you really and truly hate. Find a way to really stir up your rage, your anger, and your hate. Focus every ounce of your wrath on that knot as if it were the thing that your wrath wishes to seek out.
Feel your hatred for the knot burning. Continue hating the knot and letting your rage build. When you are about to scream, ATTACK the knot! Rip at it with all of your rage. Tear at it and do everything you can to break that knot apart. Fight with that knot and give it EVERYTHING YOU’VE GOT! Don’t stop until you’ve unraveled the knot or your anger takes over and your patience comes to an end.
How was that experience for you? How long did it take to untie your knot? Were you able to do it at all? When you were done untying the knot, did you feel better or worse? Or did you just feel like you were wasting your time? Whatever you felt, hold onto that for a moment.